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(This post is a bit long but I think it's worth the read...especially if you plant comments in the rain)

Today I saw a few comments on ActiveRain that simply shocked me.  They honestly left me in awe.  Comments on an ActiveRain post written way back in 2008.  Over the years I've subscribed to quite a few blogs and individual blog posts here in the rain.  So when comments do come in, even years later on those older posts, it's nice to get that email notification from AR prompting me that someone has commented.

Have you ever read a comment that just made you cringe?  Made your heart start pounding?  Literally made you want to pick up the phone and call that person and share your thoughts?  You know the ones I'm talking about, I bet you even have a few that quickly come to mind?  See, comments are impressionable, and remember, they're also out there forever.

I received one such ActiveRain email this morning.  After reading the new comment and even some of the older comments, all I could say is WOW!!  I wanted to share it here but thought "no" that wouldn't be very cool. ( I was tempted )  Has this ever happened to you?  Were you shocked?  Even worse, maybe it was your comment?  Yikes! :-O  Did I really say that?  There it is in writing, black and white and it can't be undone.

Here's the worst or best part of it.   

THERE'S A LINK TO YOUR COMMENT in the lower right corner.  Every comment on ActiveRain has a link to it.  There are over 1,000,000+ blog posts on AR meaning there has to be over 10,000,000+ comments here. Hmmm... those are staggering numbers.  Once you comment, only the author of that post can delete your comment.  (I think you only have 24 hours or less to make edits to your own comments)

Every comment on AR is numbered and that number contains the URL and link to it.  What?  A Link?  YES, for anyone that wants to share that your comment with the world, it's right there.  (I resisted the temptation today, but others may not)  A simple right click of the mouse to "copy the URL" and it could be pasted and plastered anywhere and everywhere folks want to share it.  I wonder if the author of the comment I'm referring to knew about this?

Is your comment being tweeted about or hanging out on someones Facebook wall?  If it's a good comment, great... but if it's a bad, mean, or nasty comment, then all I can say is OUCH!  Got you thinking now?  Take this "sharing" concept a little further, how would you even know?

YEP! This could be Bad, or this could be Good, that remains up to you. 

People can easily litter the information highway with good or bad stuff.  Be careful what you say, the online world is listening. Each comment you make on ActiveRain is like a mini blog post.  Make sure you leave a trail of patience and kindness in the rain.  ActiveRain blogs and comments go as deep as the stars go high so really think twice before you "strike" in that comment box.

To test this, here's a comment I just tweeted from a post written last week.

Here's the actual comment:

 It worked just as planned, my visitor counter was proof~ 

Seriously, have you ever really thought of the consequences your comments could have out on the Blogosphere?  Sharing links to a comment is a great way to bring your Blog post and other members blog posts back to life.  It's also a great compliment when you show off commenter's on your Blog posts. (like Frank and Sharon above)  Great comments deserve to be shared, and then there's those comments that if shared, wouldn't be so great, at least not for that person.  I'm just sayin... 

Here's another example: 

OMG!!  Did you all hear what @Sara Bonert from Zillow just said on Brad Andersohn's post?  Brad said, "Who Cares about your local Real Estate Market?  WOW!!  And Sara said... See her comment here~

Imagine if I put out a tweet or an update on Facebook that read something like that, do you think folks would click on it to see what it said?  I'm pretty sure it would drive some traffic, but depending on the comment, it could have a variety of results and impact on you, your company, or your business?  I'm hoping that by sharing this with AR members, it will heighten your awareness and hopefully have an impact on some of the blog commenting demeanor I've seen through-out my travels here in the rain.  Dare to comment now?  :-O

Some Alternate Ideas for a Title on this Blog Post:
ActiveRain Comments - A Powerful and Mighty Tool
My Comment on Your Post - OMG! Did I Really Say That?
I'll Give You 20 Bucks if You Remove/Delete My Comment
Thanks for Tweeting My Comment - I Just Picked up a Buyer
I Face-Booked a Link to YOUR Comment Today & Doubled My Traffic

The Result-vs-the Reward of your comment on my Blog




"Learn More. Get More. Do More. Be More."

Comment balloon 133 commentsBrad Andersohn • January 26 2011 05:18PM


Brad, i've read a couple that were not respectful or downright not good...i was thinking what were they thinking...thanks for bringing this point home
Posted by Ginny Gorman, Homes for Sale in Southern RI and beyond (RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate) over 9 years ago

I wrote a blog about this a few months ago, though it was about name calling but same context.. Be careful what you say to people because once it's here, it's here forever and how embarrassing would it be if your clients searched you and ran into that link.

Posted by Stacey Smith, Your Orange County Beach Cities Realtor (Keller Williams Realty) over 9 years ago

Great message.  Folks don't always realize the consequences of what they say in the Internet universe.

Posted by Donna Foerster, Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant (HomeSmart Realty Group) over 9 years ago

great point, i have a read a couple of comments that were completely negative and you are right, it will live for ever what a poor attitude that agent has...

Posted by Scott Godzyk, One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents (Godzyk Real Estate Services) over 9 years ago

Keep your cool, then use comments as a tool. I can do that.

Posted by Glenn Roberts (Retired) over 9 years ago

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Posted by marti garaughty, a highly caffeinated creative type... ( over 9 years ago

Great point. When it's out there it is out there. Some of the comments I've seen shouldn't be anywhere.

Posted by Shar Sitter, Home Staging and Redesign Minneapolis/ St. Paul, M (Rooms With Style) over 9 years ago

Comments are just as important as the blog itself. So it portrays the character of the blogger. Dont say anything you wouldn't say openly to the person. I find some people needing some coaching skill in this area.

PS: Praying for your dad.

Posted by Loreena and Michael Yeo, Real Estate Agents (3:16 team REALTY ~ Locally-owned Prosper TX Real Estate Co.) over 9 years ago

Brad, Great info, and unfortunately something too many forget.  Try to restrain the little inner gremlins when commenting.

Posted by Liz and Bill Spear, RE/MAX Elite Warren County OH (Cincinnati/Dayton) (RE/MAX Elite 513.520.5305 over 9 years ago

Brad, I didn't know that every comment on AR is numbered and has a URL for each comment...good to know. I had a comment on one of my youTube videos, not I changed the settings that all comments had to be approved first...

Posted by Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®, Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate (Vision Quest Realty) over 9 years ago

I wrote a post about the fact that I'm not comfortable leaving comments on posts that are Public (like this.)  I feel that Member's Only Posts are more conducive to receiving comments.

Posted by Margaret Goss, Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate (Baird & Warner Real Estate) over 9 years ago


I write comments like I leave voice messages and though anyone could be reading/listening them. I think that it could be the media or my clients. What if the comment showed up on the front page of a National publication.

You really brought this point home.


Posted by Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) over 9 years ago

Brad, you are the sweetest, most lovable guy on the web....

Save that one for one day in the future when it might come back to haunt me... :)


Actually, I just heard about your dad. SO SORRY. Praying for you and your family.

Hang in there, my friend.

Posted by Nick Bastian, Real Estate Agent - Tempe (Realty Executives) over 9 years ago

Hi Brad,

I too am sometimes amazed at the things people will say.  So negative or harsh.  It will turn me off to that person on the Rain.


Posted by The Scott Loper Team Bux-Mont Premier Properties (Keller Williams Real Estate - Montgomeryville) over 9 years ago

It's amazing what people will say. Is it drunk-commenting? or maybe just the way they are?

Posted by Eric Michael, Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519 (Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI) over 9 years ago

We need to keep this in mind. "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up... that it may benefit those who listen" (NIV)

Instead of making comments that are undignified, cruel or hurtful we should all strive to build up, encourage and comfort or say nothing at all.

Posted by Dee Mayers, San Gabriel Valley, CA over 9 years ago

One day when we chat again... I'll have to tell you how I handled one of those kind of comments.  Can't admit to anything here where it will last forever though.


Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 9 years ago

Hey, Brad!  I gotta check this one out!  As a newbie blogger, I did leave one on Lenn Harley's blog once time that still makes me cringe today!  I'm very lucky she speaks to me today!  We all learn!

Posted by Patricia Kennedy, Home in the Capital (RLAH Real Estate) over 9 years ago

Wow!  Brad, you've got my brain buzzing with ideas.  I learn so much here at ActiveRain, and I already know that it's important to be polite.  But I never realized the possibilities of comments to drive traffic and help each other out.  Shoot, I'll probably be up all night now, thinking about it!

Posted by Deborah Nance, Southern California , Reverse Mortgage Specialist (Orange County, Corona, Riverside, Los Angeles) over 9 years ago

Brad - I've seen many a comment come up in my Google reader on occasion... A very regular occasion at that. Comments don't go away unless you take them away soooo with that said... I commend you on this post and the sometimes not so nice comments that can appear around here.... Be nice people It will come back to you like Karma

Posted by Robert Hammerstein, Bergen County NJ Real Estate (Christie's International Real Estate ) over 9 years ago

Totally, makes you really think before you typed.  I've caught myself going back and deleting, when given a few extra seconds.  Thank g-d for the back button.

Posted by Jane Becker, CRS,ASP,ABR,CBR,CDPE,LMC,E-PRO,GRI (Keller Williams Home Team AdvantEdge ) over 9 years ago

This is a bit of a stretch, Brad ... kind of like the 49ers and Raiders meeting in the Super Bowl. Should we be civil and use common sense online? Of course. But with so much content and technology available, if someone wants to put a negative spin on one of our comments, posts, or photos, they probably can. I'll trust my readers to know the difference.

Posted by John Novak, Henderson, Las Vegas and Summerlin Real Estate (Keller Williams Realty The Marketplace) over 9 years ago

Brad - We should be conscious as business people, that every public online interaction is - public!  I agree - take "care".  

Posted by Wendy Rulnick, "It's Wendy... It's Sold!" (Rulnick Realty, Inc.) over 9 years ago

I think the #1 rule of blogging and interacting on the internet is "What's posted on the internet STAYS on the internet." In other words, don't drink and comment! :=)

Posted by Lori Cain, Midtown Tulsa Real Estate Top Producer (eXp Realty) over 9 years ago

I was WONDERING how folks linked to comments! I never clicked on the hyperlink comment number before. When I do, the URL for the comment shows up in the address window ... or whatever you call it, LOL.

Posted by Cynthia Larsen, Independent Broker In Sonoma County, CA over 9 years ago

I hope that I haven't done that.  I speak my mind so, really I do breath before I type I think I am okay.  Thanks for the reminder and the information about it always being there.

Posted by Navona Hart, Selling the Best Properties in Central Virginia (Real Living Cornerstone) over 9 years ago


Great blog. It was nice to chat with you today. Contacts rather than leads...what a powerful concept!

Do you really need $50?


Posted by Tom Branch, Broker, CDPE, SFR, ACRE, Plano TX Ambassador (RE/MAX Dallas Suburbs) over 9 years ago

Brad...I'm very new to Active Rain, about 5 days of being active.  So far I've had a very good experience and haven't seen anything but positive comments.  Hopefully it will continue that way.

Posted by Kim Inman, CRS, Broker/Owner (Mountains to Lakes Real Estate, Inc.) over 9 years ago

Hi Brad, I was just googling myself last night to see what came up...and lots of it were links to comments I made on other's posts. You're so right about these being out there! It's really just common courtesy to think about the purpose of the bloggers' post, where they were directing it, was it public or members only. Now, I'm thinking, can someone take a comment from the url and then alter it? Ya know..take out a line or word so it reads like something different..or is it just as it is. Thanks for this reminder to be aware of our words.

Posted by Cindy Westfall, ABR,GRI Your Tualatin & Portland Metro Real Estate (Premiere Property Group,LLC Portland Metro & Suburbs Oregon) over 9 years ago

Brad - I love this...everything we put out there on the net can conceivably be around FOREVER!  That can be great or that can be disasterous...I love the examples you've shared.  What you write online - no matter what the site - can easily become your public image...first impressions count - make every impression...or rather click...a good one!

Real Estate Virtual Assistant

Posted by Christine Wade - Real Estate Virtual Assistant, Proud to Serve Your Real Estate Support Needs (Christine Wade) over 9 years ago

Brad ~ Excellent information, I never thought of the numbers as links. That makes perfect sense. Thankfully I have never run into the negative comments.

Posted by Diane M. Phillips Realtor 443-286-4365, Specializing in Carroll Co., MD (Frankly Real Estate Inc.) over 9 years ago

Thanks for your "warning" post, Brad. I've seen the numbers, but I thought they were just to show how many people had commented on one's blog. Thanks for pointing out the reason for the #s.

I guess AR is really helping realtors be known in the "outside" world.

Posted by James Harner, James Harner Group - Philadelphia PA Real Estate (Considering Selling Your Home? Call 610-310-7646 first) over 9 years ago

I never knew about that link... thanks, Brad... I will have to start using that.. (for good stuff, not bad!! ).... I miss learning new AR stuff from you... Thanks for sharing this... I have only received one comment ever that I thought was "not cool".... and to this day, I avoid that person on here. I feel like they are just a bully!

Posted by Sheila Newton Team Anderson & Greenville SC, Selling the Upstate since 1989 (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - C. Dan Joyner) over 9 years ago

Always think before you type. I have left comments on my posts for all to see when someone has been less than colorful. Makes them look bad, not me.

Posted by Jackie Connelly-Fornuff, "Moving at The Speed of YOU!" (Douglas Elliman Real Estate in Babylon NY) over 9 years ago

Brad, I did a Google search a few days ago.  myname+reputation  

I had all these comments I had made on blogs some even here, which I thought were do not follow links.


Posted by Missy Caulk, Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate (Missy Caulk TEAM) over 9 years ago

Brad : Thanks for taken time out to address this issue. I find that we should be careful whenever we write a comment. It takes a lot for someone to leave a negative comments and I'm not sure why someone would want to do that publicly instead of just sending an email directly.

Posted by Donna Paul, Long Island Home Specialist,All About Real Estate (Keller Williams Realty Gold Coast) over 9 years ago

Thanks for giving us all something to think about, if some of us weren't already.  The best idea is to try to always remember to be respectful even when providing an opposing viewpoint.

Posted by Carla Morin (Brookfield) over 9 years ago

Good post today thank you for posting.


Patricia /Seacoast NH & ME

Posted by Patricia Aulson, Realtor - Portsmouth NH Homes-Hampton NH Homes (BERKSHIRE HATHAWAY HOME SERVICES Verani Realty NH Real Estate ) over 9 years ago

Brad -- The best advice about comments - anywhere - that I have received were the phrases -- the internet is forever and don't write anything you wouldn't want your mother, your kids, or the world to see!  Thanks for the post -- always good to remember!

Posted by Alexsandra Stewart, Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate (Remax equity group) over 9 years ago

Brad - I knew about the comment linking feature, but I hadn't really given much thought to using it elsewhere.  Great ideas here, my friend!

Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) over 9 years ago

I have a policy...if I wouldn't say it to someone in person...I don't type it and hit enter!  Some folks do not think before they post!  Well said!

Posted by Jeani Codrey, If you're not learning, you're not living! (The Learning Jeani) over 9 years ago

We all make some mistakes...sometimes or somewhere, hopefully not here.  I have read some post across the web from agents and I to just hope to avoid the error.

Of course you can't please all the people all the time...or so it goes.

Posted by Michael Blue, REALTOR - 760-889-8877, Encinitas/Carlsbad (Home Smart Realty West) over 9 years ago

Wow, this blog will definitely get you thinking about your posts.  Thanks for the heads up!

Posted by Braden Halter (EXIT Advantage Realty) over 9 years ago

@Missy - links in comments are do not follow - but the comments are indexed by Google with the post - so your comment might appear under a search if your comment has the search keywords in it.

I have been very careful since I learned that.  :)

Not so much what I say, I speak my mind, but I am careful how I say it.

Posted by Virginia Hepp - Mesquite NV REALTOR, Mesquite NV Homes and Neighborhoods - Search MLS (Desert Gold Realty - Mesquite NV Homes For Sale) over 9 years ago

Brad - Great reminder that we are what we say. Especially when it comes to social media. Now, if I could only get my daughter to heed my warning(s). <sigh>

Posted by Judy Jennings, Tap into Judy's real estate expertise & resources. (Top Agent Plus) over 9 years ago

Brad, what I hear you saying is that all we have to do to find the permalink for a comment is to click on the comment number in the lower right corner of the comment box.  Then we go up to the URL and copy the link.

For example, the permalink for Michael Blue's comment (#42) is

Then if I want to hyperlink to Michael's observation that "we all make some mistakes," then I can do so.

This is really, really cool!

When you follow the hyperlink the comment comes up right at the top of the screen.

My brain is racing to figure out how to use this.  I like it!

Moreover, both you and Michael both gained a bit of Google umph because of my hyperlink.

In three years from now if someone Googles "we all make some mistakes," searchers will find both your blog and Michael's comment.

This is very, very powerful!

Posted by Debbie Durkee, ALC, CRS -- Land & Country Estates near Tulsa (RE/MAX T-town) over 9 years ago

Hello Brad,

I'm my worst critic; as most of us are or should be. I always proof-read my comments (most times anyway); if I don't think it makes sense I delete it. Now; if only we would all be so considerate.

Happy Blogging!


Posted by Adell Forbes (REALTOR®), "Knowledge & Experience Working for You" (PalmerHouse Properties ) over 9 years ago

Wow! Looks like I touched on a fairly good topic here.
Thanks to the AR staff person who granted the gold star.  :-))

Yes, Being careful what you write and say in the comments is very important! 

Now here's where this post gets really fun, out of the 45 comments above can anyone guess which comment I've chosen to share on twitter?  Which one would you choose?  If we start commenting like it's going to be shared out on Social Networks and via Social Media, would that change what we say, or how we comment? Hmm...

So I'll pick a worthy comment from above and go tweet or facebook about it and let's see if it works again... 

Imagine what you can do now with sharing comments (the best ones of course) and how much new and fresh traffic that could drive to your AR Blog posts. Just sayin...  :-)

Posted by Brad Andersohn, ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876 (Executive Director of Education at eXp Realty) over 9 years ago

I definitely agree with Loreena comment.  I am sure that many of us can relate. Just dont say to people what you wouldn't want people say to you. Great post Brad.

Posted by Lanre-"THE REAL ESTATE FARMER" Folayan, I don't make promises.I deliver results.SOLD HOMES (Keller Williams Select Realtors-Buy a home in Washington DC. Sell a home in Washington DC) over 9 years ago

If it doesn't add to the conversation of the blog, don't post it!  Great advice from the Webinar Training with Active Rain U! 

Thanks for posting this..


Posted by Keith Pentz, Keith Pentz (RE/MAX ADVANTAGE 1) over 9 years ago

Hi Brad, So glad you wrote this and it is featured so that hopefully a lot of people will see it.  One reason I don't like to see some posts out there for the public, is that personally I think some comments I have seen, shine a negative light on the Realtor profession as a whole. (Just my opinion.)  I wrote a post back in November of 2010 with a similar thought and commented that I would like to see our posts default to DRAFT status and then we would have to deliberately make them public if that is the intent.  I have to wonder if some comments are intended to be public.

Thanks for pointing out.

Posted by Joyce Godwin, Realtor, CRS, RE/MAX Elite Properties (RE/MAX Elite Properties; Serving Cypress, Spring, Tomball, NW Houston) over 9 years ago

Good words and reminders here Brad!  Most of us probably have not thought about the little blue number as a link...but that's exactly what it is.  Another reason to think before you click send...

Posted by Lola Audu, Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI ~Welcome Home! (Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate) over 9 years ago

I have found most comments here at AR are postive and encouraging... I cannot say the same for facebook!

Posted by Kathy Schowe, La Quinta, California 760-333-8886 (California Lifestyle Realty) over 9 years ago

Thanks for the info.  I didn't know the blue number is a link to your comment.  I thought it just shows how many comments there are in a particular blog.  I've been very careful with my comments when I found out that whatever you say on the internet stays forever.

PS - I just found out about your Dad.  I'll keep your Dad and your family in my prayers. 

Posted by Rosalinda Morgan, "The Rose Lady" over 9 years ago

I often find that I write far more responding to comments on my post than in the original blog. It is frightening that a comment can be taken completely out of context...

Posted by Liz Lockhart, GRI, Cape Girardeau Real Estate (Riverbend Realty, Cape Girardeau, MO) over 9 years ago

We need to be mindful that whatever we say on the internet is there forever. 

Posted by Joan Whitebook, Consumer Focused Real Estate Services (BHG The Masiello Group) over 9 years ago

I love this Brad! Some think it may be cool to just badger people or leave distasteful comments thinking it's showing how 'smart' they are. I think some don't care if it's all over the internet too.

But like you say......

People can easily litter the information highway with good or bad stuff.  Be careful what you say, the online world is listening. Each comment you make on ActiveRain is like a mini blog post.  Make sure you leave a trail of patience and kindness in the rain.  ActiveRain blogs and comments go as deep as the stars go high so really think twice before you "strike" in that comment box.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) over 9 years ago

Brad - I don't like to comment unless I can add something to the conversation and I hope I always try to remember that anyone could read my comments at any time and anywhere. 

Thanks for the information on this; I didn't realize that the comments had a link to them.  That's great to know; now trying to figure out how I can use this.

Posted by Lori Mode, Real Estate Made Simple (The Mode Real Estate Group) over 9 years ago

Brad, this is a great point! This is good advice for leaving comments & I love the idea of copying the URL to Twitter!

Posted by Don Wixom, "Looking out for your next move..."tm (RE/MAX Executives Nampa, ID) over 9 years ago

Brad, great idea to tweet or FB the comments. I never right clicked the comment number. I wonder how thousands of AR features I haven't discovered yet.

Posted by Dave Halpern, Louisville Short Sale Expert (Keller Williams Realty Louisville East (502) 664-7827) over 9 years ago

Hi Brad,

Thanks for another great tip on how to get more Google juice from our blogs.

Posted by Sidney Kutchuk, Property Management & Sales Experts 951-217-6745 (Property Management & Sales at REALTY WORKS TEMECULA, CA 92590 (951) 217-6745) over 9 years ago

Brad, I never thought about the fact that the comment number is actually a hyperlink.  I learn something everyday in the Rain.

Posted by Linda Graves Arnold, St. Louis Real Estate Pro - 314-422-2762 - Referr (Coldwell Banker Gundaker-St. Louis, MO) over 9 years ago

Brad, I think of that every time I post a comment. Anything I write can and will be seen by potential friends, relatives and clients. I try to handle myself with poise and dignity but still give off that sense of realness when posting comments. Thanks :)

Tammy Emineth

Posted by Tammy Emineth, Content Marketer, SEO Teacher, Website Fixer (Personal SEO - Website SEO and Real Estate Marketing) over 9 years ago

Brad, I never realized the comment can be linked.  How amazing is that?  There are a few snarky people here.  Fortunately, most are great.  It only takes one to make us all want to cringe.  I'm thankful that I behave, for the most part, lol...I SURE will now!

I hope you are doing well my friend!  I think of you often :)

Posted by Elizabeth Cooper-Golden, Huntsville AL MLS (Huntsville Alabama Real Estate, (@ Homes Realty Group)) over 9 years ago


Every comment you make should be positive or at least neutral.  In an open forum being destructive or negative is not constructive.  One can make critical comments is a respectful way.  Nice to know you can identify posters.

Evelyn Kennedy, Alameda, CA

Posted by Evelyn Kennedy, Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA (Alain Pinel Realtors) over 9 years ago

Brad I love this post! I hope it will help us improve our comment Karma. I never thought about the things that could be done with that little number over there. This was definitely worth the read, and you can quote me on that! =D

Joan Whitebook said it better than I ever Could.



Posted by Steven Graham, Coach, ePs, Director of Training (epropertysites) over 9 years ago

It's actually shocking that people need to be told this. I guess people tend to forget that they are always marketing themselves when they speak. The smallest remark can make you look bad. Good post.

Posted by Chris Pappas (Prudential Douglas Elliman - Manhasset, NY) over 9 years ago

Thanks - I learned something new from you again!  I do notice that I learn as much about others on Active Rain from reading their comments as from reading their blog posts, so makes sense to be very thoughtful in posting comments! 

Posted by Nancy Conner, Olympia/Thurston County WA over 9 years ago

Thanks Brad for the reminder.

Posted by Jamie Parker Gwinnett, Realtor, Snellville Homes (Exp Realty) over 9 years ago

Brad, great post!  This is a good reminder to watch how we comment here on the 'Rain and other blogging sites.  It really is better to pass a post up and not comment on it than it is to leave a comment that we will regret later!

Posted by Tony & Darcy Cannon, The C Team (Aubrey and Associates Realty) over 9 years ago

Yes indeed, I always try to pause and think before I submit a comment.

Posted by Justin Dibbs, REALTOR® - Ashburn Virginia Homes for Sale (Pearson Smith Realty) over 9 years ago

It's better not to comment than to say something unkind or distasteful. It's always good to be reminded that people do read what we say and our written internet words are forever.  

Posted by Sun City Grand Homes Surprise AZ Real Estate Leolinda Bowers Designated Broker Leolinda Realty, Sun City Grand in Surprise Arizona (Leolinda Realty) over 9 years ago

I still remember some of those debates and conversations.  Kinda of miss it, but your right things last a long time.

Posted by Kate Bourland, Onlilne Marketing Mobile Marketing (Marketing with Kate) over 9 years ago

We are certainly going to see more folks doing more with the comments they see after this post. And hopefully it will make some folks think about what they are saying and the consequences. I had no idea about the comment URL.


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (eXp Realty of California, Inc.) over 9 years ago

Hi Brad. Wow! I had no idea the little numbers on each comment were actually links back to the comment. Thanks for the heads-up!

Posted by Bill Burchard, Broker, Realtor, Representing Buyers and Sellers (3B Realty: 951-347-3818, CA) over 9 years ago


I guess my Mom was right...if you don't have anything nice to say...just don't say it... :)

Posted by Lori Churchill Cofer, Realtor - 509-330-0086 - Pullman, WA (Beasley Realty) over 9 years ago

Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Luke 6:45

If we are having problems taming our tongue, we can always pray to be reminded that:



Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. James 3:10

Posted by Joni Bailey, Your Huntsville / Lake Livingston Area REALTOR® (101 Main St. Realty) over 9 years ago

Ouch is right!  A good reminder to all to keep on creating good and positive feedback.  Those "passionate" or downright spiteful comments may come back to bite them in the toosh!

Posted by Sherri Sherpy, NMLS #287770 (iLoan) over 9 years ago

I like the idea of using comments as something to Tweet about -- just another way to get discussion going.  And I agree with Lori's comment #76.  Just because you can think of something toxic to say, doesn't mean it needs to be said.  Thanks Brad!


Posted by Melanie Hedrick, 972-816-7205 (Elite Texas Properties, the best homes from McKinney to Dallas!) over 9 years ago

With all the great coments on ActiveRain, the site could easily become the next largest resource for "twitter fodder" ya never know ... seriously, I've seen some great comments here today all over the rain that are worth sharing out there socially.  Maybe Bob should have a "comment tweet day" contest?

Did you know that if you tweeted a single ActiveRain comment every minute on the minute of every single day, it would take you somewhere around 20 years to tweet them all?  Why does that matter?  It doesn't, I just wanted to share that. :-)

Posted by Brad Andersohn, ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876 (Executive Director of Education at eXp Realty) over 9 years ago

Brad - I didn't know this when I first started commenting. Although, my comments aren't usually divisive in anyway, I may have made some commenting mistakes early on. I do try to keep this in mind when I'm commenting.

Posted by Tammie White, Broker, Franklin TN Homes for Sale (Franklin Homes Realty LLC) over 9 years ago


What a great post!!  Recently I was amazed at some of the comments I had received.  I started to wonder if there was some place here on AR to report them...  I then thought about a post the Gary Woltal wrote: "Nothing Others Do Is Because Of You".  So I left their comments and thought they would be the ones that others would look at, and wonder???  So glad you posted this...  I feel much better knowing that I kept my cool and never said anything back that I would regret!

Posted by Linda D. Pufford, ASPM, Marin/Sonoma Home Stager (Stage with Divine Style - Home Staging) over 9 years ago

Brad, this is a great thing to remind everyone.  I wonder now that I have been on here for a few years, what I commented at first.  I'm sure I was nice but probably not as long. 

Christina Oneal

Posted by Christina ONeal, Realtor - Ripon California (At Home Real Estate Group) over 9 years ago

Great tips Brad, thanks.  My policy for all electronic commissions is: if in doubt, sleep on it before you hit the enter button. 

Posted by Justin Bevins (BHHS - California Properties) over 9 years ago

A scary thought that AR comments can be Tweeted by anybody without the owner's knowledge.

Posted by Yolanda Hoversten, Broker - O Fallon, IL Real Estate (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Elite Properties) over 9 years ago

Yolanda:  It's just like that silly thing they say about Las Vegas.  What is SAID on the Internet... STAYS on the Internet.  Even if you delete whatever it was... it is probably in a Google cache somewhere... or in some similar place.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 9 years ago

Brad - thanks for sharing this information, did not realize our comments had hyperlinks.

Posted by Stephen P. Panczak, Sr, MBA, Realtor, Property Mgm't, LCAM over 9 years ago

Very interesting post and a bit scary too, to say the least.............something I hadn't even thought about Brad.............thanks for the reminder.

Posted by Roger D. Mucci, Lets shake things up at your home today! (Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092) over 9 years ago


Great information and ideas for future blogs, tweets, and facebook posts.  Thanks and great line about planting seeds in the "Rain"

Posted by Larry Story, Total Care Realty, LLC, Greensboro, NC Real Estate (Total Care Realty) over 9 years ago

Brad: Thanks for the reminder. It is important to be smart with your comments.

Posted by Surprise Arizona Realtor Jim Braun Sun City Grand Active Adult Communities, Surprise AZ real estate Phoenix West Valley (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage Jim Braun Sun City Grand Az ) over 9 years ago

Brad--I try to be positive in my comments. Comments are the gateway to a relationship. I have many on AR. Most began with construcitve comments.

Posted by Elliott S. Topkins, Massachusetts Real Estate and Title Atty (Topkins & over 9 years ago

Brad, very good information.  I wonder how many people comment before they think.  Once it's out there it's out there as you say.  Good rule sometimes is simply 'think before you speak  comment.'

Posted by Tony Morganti, CRS, ABR, SRES - Cuyahoga Falls, Stow (RE/MAX Crossroads in Cuyahoga Falls and Stow, Ohio) over 9 years ago



This is very good information to know. There's also the lesson that whatever you post stays forever.



Posted by Brian Madigan, LL.B., Broker (RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage (Toronto)) over 9 years ago

Good point for all to remember, Brad.  I know that when I research (Google) technical topics related to home inspections, I often get industry message boards full of less than professional posts/comments that I'm sure many people don't know have a life outside of their little trade association board.

Posted by Joseph Michalski, PA Home Inspector (Precision Home Inspection) over 9 years ago

Thanks for the information.  I too did not know this, and we all need to remember this.

But I think it's not just Google that puts things into its cache--I have read some posts that take a swipe at the blogger (and not in a helpful way) and I don't forget who they are!  We are more likely to remember the few negative comments than we will specifically remember all the positive ones.

Posted by Peggy Chirico, REALTOR® 860-748-8900, Hartford & Tolland County Real Estate (Prudential CT Realty) over 9 years ago

Brad, haven't thought about this at all. Did a mouse over on the number of the comment and there it is a link. Thanks for the reminder.

Posted by Michael Setunsky, Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA over 9 years ago

You never know how your actions comments will come back to you. The internet puts you out there for all to see. You need to make sure that they see what you want them to see - in everything you do.

Posted by Susan Thompson-Solomons, Southern MD Real Estate-Solomons Specialist (Berkshire Hathaway Home Services McNelis Group Properties) over 9 years ago

I calculated that I'm commenting at least 3600 times per year . . .did not know about the link.

Posted by Fernando Herboso - Broker for Maxus Realty Group, 301-246-0001 Serving Maryland, DC and Northern VA (Maxus Realty Group - Broker 301-246-0001) over 9 years ago


I do think the commenter can delete in the same time frame as edit.  I had someone yank his own 2 comments, which I would have left on my post.

Posted by Irene Kennedy Realtor® in Northwestern NJ (Weichert) over 9 years ago


If you think some of the comments on here are bad, might I direct you to interest based boards. The comments on those sights are text based fist fights. You bring up a great point though, anything you put on the net, stays on the net forever...


Posted by Brent & Deb Wells, Prosper TX (LivingWell Properties) over 9 years ago

Brad, very good points, and yes, there are some I have really cringed reading...but I never thought how others may take my words and use them in a different capacity than intended...

Posted by Marney Kirk, Towson, Maryland Real Estate (Cummings & Co. Realtors) over 9 years ago

Brad I agree with many others above that maybe this will make people think twice before hitting the submit button! I know I have had a couple of post that the comments got pretty nasty!! I thought about deleting but, then decided to leave it be and let them show their true color for here ever after! Thanks for the reminder! Paige

Posted by Paige Walker, Real Estate Guru - Alexandria Pineville LA (Paige Walker) over 9 years ago

It's too bad AR doesn't actually enforce this by moderation.  About 2 months ago, I was looking at a post of one of the most "snarkiest" commentators on AR.  Too my shock and horror, she had reposted one of my blogs and began ripping it apart, cutting me down and my business.  If I had not seen it with my own eyes, I would not have believed it. 

Before I knew it, about 100 realtors chimed in all with nasty comments regarding my industry.  Even a few above that have posted here.  Always great to know that everyone disapproves, but when push comes to shove, it's like the bully in the playyard at school; no one does what is right. 

It happened again recently, by the same perpetrator, and it's really too bad, because I think it distracts from the professionalism that should be displayed.  And, really, if you spend your time blogging, and have that many points, seriously, one needs to get a life or get a job. It's obvious you aren't out selling homes. 



Thanks for the informative post. Especially the part about "links".

Posted by Bob Zorechak - ABR, GRI, e-PRO, Sells Homes in Morris/Somerset/Hunterdon Cos., NJ (Keller Williams Realty Metropolitan) over 9 years ago

If only we could hear the tone of the comment. I tell my kids , who text me constantly,  to call me so I can hear their tone before I say yes!! Sometimes the tone of the comments comes across wrong. I think if you disagree with someone there is a professional way to comment !


Posted by Tracy Lee Parker, Buy*Sell*Lease (RE/MAX Dallas Suburbs/PLATINUM PROPERTIES & MANAGEMENT) over 9 years ago

Brad, thanks for the heads up - I think I have been guilty of all of the above... In the old days, we would just put our asbestos suits on and let it burn... But you have to be a little more careful now eh?

Posted by Terkel Sørensen, Realtor, 951.805.0773 , Bank owned and Short Sales (Real Estate Places) over 9 years ago

It is scary that everything that you create and comment on on the internet is forever, but it is true. I am amzed at the comments that I see sometimes...Did they really say that?...They couldn't have meant that! Common sense goes a long way! CONGRATS ON THE FEATURE!

Posted by K.C. McLaughlin, Realtor, e-PRO, Homes for Sale - Cary, Raleigh NC (RE/MAX United) over 9 years ago

I've deleted comments once I figured out there was no reasoning with some people. Better to delete the comment and let it go than to get into a lose-lose situation.

I've reached the point where I don't comment as much as I used to...been too darn busy listing and selling...


Posted by Tom Branch, Broker, CDPE, SFR, ACRE, Plano TX Ambassador (RE/MAX Dallas Suburbs) over 9 years ago

Brad, Thanks for the reminder.  Sometimes I get passionate about an issue and have to remind myself slow down!  Watch what you say!   We all need to respectful of our profession and each other.

Posted by Dawn Marie Anderson, Broker Associate, GRI, SRF (John R Wood Island Real Estate Inc 239.410.7677) over 9 years ago

Oh, how I love this post!  Not only your reminder that we need to mind our P's and Q's...which should go without saying....but also for teaching me that I can hyperlink to a comment.  I'm sure I've only begun to think of useful applications.

Posted by Tara Cummins, Marketing Concierge, Strategy4SuccessNow (Stratagy4SuccessNow) over 9 years ago

Thank you for the post.I did not know that I can hyperlink to a comment.


Posted by Gita Bantwal, REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel (RE/MAX Centre Realtors) over 9 years ago

Sometimes you contact an agent or are contacted by an agent just because of comments. Good point and well taken.

Posted by Cheryl Ritchie, Southern Maryland 301-980-7566 (RE/MAX Leading Edge over 9 years ago

Always keep us thinking ~ thank you.

Posted by James Locklear, Social Media Training , Virtual Services, Search Engine Optimization Lattitude - SEOL (Online Marketing Advertising Consultant) over 9 years ago

My Mama always said, "never say anything out loud that you don't want to see on the front page of the newspaper."

Posted by Jill Watts, A Luxury Experience at Every Price Point! (Realty Pro, Inc.) over 9 years ago

You are so right about being careful about what we say online.  Anyone can find what you said, as you wrote, forever!  So be careful, you wouldn't want to find yourself in a lawsuit where your online comments could compromise you.

One correction Brad - you said only the author of a post can delete comments.  I checked my old comments from a year ago and I am able to delete them.  By hovering over the number in the lower right hand corner, a link appears to allow me to delete the comment.  I believe everyone can do this as well.

Posted by Dan Quinn, Dan Quinn (The Eric Steart Group of Long & Foster Real Estate) over 9 years ago

Dan - that is correct, comments are only there forever if you don't go back and delete it.  Keep in mind though that a screen shot of your comment shared on a social network or website CAN NOT be undone.  How many people will actually go back to their 10,000 comments on ActiveRain or even have the time to see if they should or shouldn't delete them?  Very few I'm sure. 

Thanks for pointing that out, members can delete the comment, but they can't edit the comment after the specified time allotted by AR.  And they can't change the damage done once eyeballs roll over those comments.

Posted by Brad Andersohn, ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876 (Executive Director of Education at eXp Realty) over 9 years ago

Brad- I keep thinking of what my high school principal used to say "A word said is a word dead" meaning that once you say it... it's out there.  Or is it "a card laid is a card played"?  In any event this is (1) a great reminder to all of us to think more than twice before hitting the"enter" button and not just on ActiveRain and (2) more information about the # thing after a comment!

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) over 9 years ago

I love all of your posts and reading everyone's comments - I think we all need to use our words wisely - Have a great day!

Posted by Norma J. Elkins, Realtor - Elkins Home Selling Team ( Elite Realty Group) over 9 years ago

What is put on the internet, stays on the internet.  Perhaps Active Rain needs a "google like" feature to prevent "drunk commenting"?!

Posted by Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers, Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty (Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area) over 9 years ago
Hello Brad, I know the 2010 Vancouver / Portland RainCamp's main speaker said we could be edgy, and even controversial in our posts yet -- those posts and commenting can all be accomplished with decorum. You are also quite the magician pulling another rabbit out of your hat with the use of the Comment Links! Best! John
Posted by Alexander- Slocum, Realty Team- Vancouver WA Real Estate (Premiere Property Group, LLC - Vancouver Washington) over 9 years ago

As Brian Tracey says, "Everything counts!  EVERY THING."

Often the tone is of a private conversation that we assume will vaporize when we're done.

Even if you hit the delete on an old email you wrote, someone else could save it.  It is even more so with comments.

Great reminder.  A closed mouth gathers no foot.

Posted by Mary Jo Quay, I Move You Home (EXP Realty ) over 9 years ago

As Brian Tracey says, "Everything counts!  EVERY THING."

Often the tone is of a private conversation that we assume will vaporize when we're done.

Even if you hit the delete on an old email you wrote, someone else could save it.  It is even more so with comments.

Great reminder.  A closed mouth gathers no foot.

Posted by Mary Jo Quay, I Move You Home (EXP Realty ) over 9 years ago

I'm sory I missed this earlier tis week, I just posted something similar that "hit" me this morning.  It's so terribly important that everyone understands this, thank you.

Posted by Virginia Gardner, Realtor, Charlottesville, Serving Central Virginia (Roy Wheeler Realty Co.) over 9 years ago

Brad - consider me complimented my friend! You have hit on a very important topic - I remember when the comments became links but hadn't connected it with sharing them socially. I have seen my comments when they show on up my StepRep report.

If everyone would try to remember how would they like to see their comment on the front page of the newspaper or whatever internet news they read - that might stop some acerbic thoughts from spewing forth. We all need this reminder every now and then!

Posted by Sharon Alters, Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL (Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308) over 9 years ago
As they also say, opinions are like noses--we all got 'em and they all smell. Meaning to have an opinion is human, but thinking it's better than anyone else's is incorrect. It's healthy to be passionate about issues. We want to be right. Let's disagree but not be disagreeable. Our posts amongst ourselves should take this tone-healthy debate, interesting discussion, helpful advice, and shared experiences.
Posted by Fulton Gaylord, 1st-Time Home Buyer Realtor - Charlottesville, VA (Keller Williams Realty) over 9 years ago

Frank and Sharon - very well put, you paint the perfect picture.

Fulton - love the nose analogy, I had never heard that one before, only the one about the rear end.  lol~

wish I had time this morning to comment back to each of you but I'm off to teach a webinar about Real estate going Crazy Mobile.  Your welcome to join me if you like, it's at 10am PST and it's going to be very informative:

(I actually have a few "Zillow Insiders" joining us to share information you shouldn't be without.)

Posted by Brad Andersohn, ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876 (Executive Director of Education at eXp Realty) over 9 years ago

Brad, I hadn't thought about a screenshot of your comment being published on the net.  That makes this post even more poignant.  Think before you submit!

Posted by Dan Quinn, Dan Quinn (The Eric Steart Group of Long & Foster Real Estate) over 9 years ago

Brad - I liked to see AR take this one step further and tweet every comment instantly (with an opt-in of course).  We can do this on Zillow...why not in the Rain?

Posted by Simon Mills (Mills Realty) over 9 years ago

Thank you, Brad for reminding us all for the need to be accountable in the virtual world, just as we are in the 'real' world. oo often I have seen agents and other professional lose sight that thier interactions online, are an extension of how they operate face-to-face. Bravo for the very thpughtful post.

Carmen, whose happy it's sunny again in California

Posted by Carmen Isais (Barrett-Leber Realty) over 9 years ago
Tweet this.
Posted by Paul Slaybaugh, Scottsdale, AZ Real Estate (Realty Executives) over 9 years ago


Posted by Brad Andersohn, ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876 (Executive Director of Education at eXp Realty) over 9 years ago

For the pithy factor? I've got more if you don't like that one. ;)

Posted by Paul Slaybaugh, Scottsdale, AZ Real Estate (Realty Executives) over 9 years ago

The pithy factor?  It's all coming back to me now...   lol~  Give me a good comment, one that ONLY Paul Slaybaugh could muster up and I promise I'll tweet it...  just don't embarrass us...  on second thought, go ahead....  :-)

Posted by Brad Andersohn, ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876 (Executive Director of Education at eXp Realty) over 9 years ago